First Interview

The friend I chose to be my first interviewee is...

Sadly, I cannot reveal her name as she has chosen to be known as ‘anonymous’. She was my ‘twin-train’ back in school where we first met but were never in the same class for almost two years. We have never been at the same place thereafter unless in a planned get-together over breakfast, lunch or dinner.

In like twenty one years of friendship, I can only recall one time, and only one time, that she was really pissed of me. She just could not take my levity (that makes her normal as no one can). I hope that one moment of my purposely-pushing-her-to-the-edge of her patience has been rewritten by more (I know for sure many) important and beautiful moments in her life.

will tell more about her in the Second Part of the interview. For now, here is how she answers the First Part:

Part 1

1. Question: Let us know a bit of your background…



• name (you can be anonymous)

Answer: anonymous


• city of origin

Answer:kuala lumpur


• age

Answer: stone aged


• marital status

Answer: tied up with the ring


• occupation

Answer: healthcare


• parents occupations

Answer: gov servants


• the number of siblings you have

Answer: not too many and not too little


• age of your siblings

Answer: close ranks

and also, if you are married


• age of your spouse

Answer: still enough to ensure he’s my hub and not my son


• occupation of your spouse

Answer: the sharing of responsibilities is more important than the salary


• the number of children you have

Answer: not too many and not too little


• ages of your children

Answer: as long as they are the children , they are still the babies tho they are all growing up


2. Question: Which school, primary and secondary, did you go to?

Answer: What really matter is my years in boarding school , the years before that – lost in space


3. Question: How do you describe, being a student, in these schools, in terms of orientation – academic, social, religious and moral?
Answer: all in all – I thank Allah for always reminding me when my path started to divert – didn’t matter which school


4. Question: How do you describe your achievement - social, academic, religious and moral, which you believe you had gained for being;


1. in school more than being at home, and
2. at home more than being in school?

Answer: Any achievement – all from Allah swt


5. Question: How do you describe the role of your parents on your upbringing?
Answer: No one is perfect . But Abah and Mak had done their part well in my upbringing


6. Question: What are the things about school, from your school years to now, that you think;


1. have improved,

Answer:Nothing (specifically refers to my 'alter alma' school in KL, for the boarding school I cannot comment)


2. have not improved, and

Answer: TOILETS and surrounding cleanliness


3. have gotten worse?

Answer: discipline


7. Question: How do you describe yourself;


1. before you initially met your husband,
2. when you were courting (if you were),
3. when you were engaged (if you were),
4. in the first five years of marriage, and
5. from then (d) to now?

Answer: From a) to e) – always trying to be a better muslim than I had been the day before


8. Question: What are the things you wish you had known and you think would have made your life easier knowing ahead than to discover them later?

Answer: Then life will not be as interesting as it is now….


9. Question: How much have your siblings helped you in making important decisions in your life? Please elaborate.

Answer: A lot – they give their views but I am free to decide


10. Question: How much have your friends helped you in making important decisions in your life? Please elaborate.

Answer: Only 1 friend and had managed to help a lot in the last 10 years of my life , but then again – the decisions in my life are based on my faith in Allah swt.When important decisions were made – failed due to my own weaknesses .