The first time I was introduced to her, she was in the middle of a discussion with her boss. Both, her boss and she, were equally outstanding if put in a crowd. Outstanding here means attractive for her and rigid for her boss. She was different from the description of her – tough and a-rock-star-like – as told by those friends who had met her before I did. She has petite-high-school look and little girl voice that made her impossible not to be noticed whereever she went.
What I like most about her is her clarity. It is either black or white, evil or good, right or wrong, yes or no, acceptable or unacceptable... she does not sit on the fence!. We were never close then and have never been close since but have stayed connected always. She is like a sister and a childhood friend(I love those friends from my past very much)to me. In my heart I know if I am ever in need of someone to comfort me, she is the one i would turn to.
Here is her first part of the interview;
What I like most about her is her clarity. It is either black or white, evil or good, right or wrong, yes or no, acceptable or unacceptable... she does not sit on the fence!. We were never close then and have never been close since but have stayed connected always. She is like a sister and a childhood friend(I love those friends from my past very much)to me. In my heart I know if I am ever in need of someone to comfort me, she is the one i would turn to.
Here is her first part of the interview;
Part 1
- Question: Let us know a bit of your background…
- name (you can be anonymous)
- city of origin
- age
- marital status
- occupation
- parents occupations
- the number of siblings you have
- age of your siblings
- age of your spouse
- occupation of your spouse
- the number of children you have
- ages of your children
Answer: noname
Answer: Kuala Lumpur
Answer: 38
Answer: married
Answer: homemaker
Answer: retired
Answer: 7
Answer: 52, 50, 48, 45, 43, 41
Answer: 38
Answer:
Answer: 1
Answer: 6
- Question: Which school, primary and secondary, did you go to?
Answer: Primary - Sekolah Kebangsaan Jalan Pasar Pudu, Kuala Lumpur. Secondary – Sekolah Menengah Puterijaya, Jalan Pasar, Pudu, Kuala Lumpur, Sekolah Menengah Aminudin Baki, Jalan Kampung Pandan, MRSM Beseri Kangar Perlis
- Question: How do you describe, being a student, in these schools, in terms of orientation – academic, social, religious and moral?
Answer:Academic... I was a bit studious throughout these school years. What was I thinking?!! Almost always the one who got the first place in classes. Once I got to go on stage during my MRSM years to accept the "sijil penghormatan pengetua" for academic performance. I've always love reading and gaining knowledge. The only regrets that's left, is I didnt take good care of my eyesights. Reading with no proper lighting nor positioning. Having to wear high powered glasses is such a nuisance!
Socially... I love being in a crowd and I always prefer being in the company of others rather than being on my own. We learned great things with our interactions with others. We can correct our mistakes based on the responses that other people give towards our social behavior.
Religious..at that time..so-so..The same with moral..so-so
- Question: How do you describe your achievement - social, academic, religious and moral, which you believe you had gained for being;
- in school more than being at home, and
- at home more than being in school?
Answer: At school..it provided knowledge especially in the religious contents. At home...growing up with 6 siblings was lovely. The feelings that they are a number of people who were always there for you was great.
- Question: How do you describe the role of your parents on your upbringing?
Answer: My parents divorced when I was about 11. Children from divorced family grow up quickly and had no choice but to learn to be independent at an early age. My mom, being a single mother with7 kids already did all that she could ever had done. I had sisters that I relied on for all the questions I had in my growing years.
- Question: What are the things about school, from your school years to now, that you think:
- have improved,
- have not improved, and
- have gotten worse?
Answer:I had not been back to any of my old schools thus unable to comment on this. Except that school years, they were some of the best and easiest and happiest times of my life.
- Question: How do you describe yourself;
- before you met your husband,
Answer: When I was single..I was more easygoing and relax I think! Always a sport.
- while you were courting (if you were),
Answer: Courting....whenever I'm in a relationships, I'm a changed person to the one I was in a relationship with. Logically, its because the involvement of emotions, feelings and commitments that are there.They make everything more "sensitive", so to speak. I had to be more careful with my actions and even with my own thoughts!! Wacko! They were lots of time when I thought it would be much better to be single with none of the hassle but those were just passing thoughts!
- while you were engaged (if you were),
Answer: Engagement..These were trying times for me. I had the self-doubts, fear from the breakdown of my own parents' marriage and many more.
- first five years of marriage, and
Answer: First 5 years..the "adjustment" years to each other were there. I fell ill during the first few years of my life. Thats how I discovered how kind and patient the husband that Allah has sent for me is. Those experiences were all for the better of our lives.
- from then (d) to now?
Answer: From then on...Sometimes I wished I'd get married much sooner! Instead of idling my time thinking about what I want to find in life and ended up with no answers. Marrried life is bliss. nothing but rahmat from Allah.
- Question: What are the things you wish you had known and you think would have made your life easier knowing ahead than to discover them later?
Answer: . I wish I hadnt taken life or people and their craziness too seriously. Take life easy..is the correct motto after all. Pray for Allah's guidance in everything that we do. Then relax!
- Question: How much have your siblings helped you in making important decisions in your life? Please elaborate.
Answer: We siblings basically make our own paths in life and decisions individually. But I do go to my sisters
for advises on important decisions in my life.
- Question: How much have your friends helped you in making important decisions in your life? Please elaborate.
Answer:. I like discussing situations with friends but I make up my own mind.
